Can We Talk? Self Help Articles | November 28 Mark Andrews Jersey , 2003 One of the easiest ways to complicate our lives is in the area of interpersonal relationships, and the closer the people are to us, the more complicated it can get! Misunderstandings arise in the blin...
One of the easiest ways to complicate our lives is in the area of interpersonal relationships, and the closer the people are to us, the more complicated it can get! Misunderstandings arise in the blink of an eye: a poor choice of words, an unconscious gesture Lamar Jackson Jersey , an incorrect interpretation, sometimes a deliberate attack. All of these cause strain on our relationships and stress on all the parties involved.
Open, clear - and immediate - communication is the key to maintaining the joy in relationships. Some people enjoy the challenge and adrenaline rush of a good verbal fight. But even those can turn on a dime. Here are some tips for keeping your relationships smooth and stress-free.
1. Don't Assume. You know what that makes of U and ME!
When you're not sure, ask what the person meant. And even more importantly, when you ARE sure, ask what the person meant. How many times have you been angry with someone Hayden Hurst Jersey , talked about it, and found yourself saying 'I thought you meant.'?
2. Don't Interpret Initial Responses or Unconscious Gestures.
This has been a hard one for me to learn. If I suggest something and my husband makes a (usually unconscious) face, I take it as a no. I get hurt or angry and then I tend to withdraw (if he's lucky!). After 9 years, I am just beginning to get the point that he needs time to mull over the suggestion and rearrange his planned day. In the past, by the time he got around to 'Are you ready to (whatever I had suggested)?', I'd say no. I'd figure that he didn't really want to do it and it wasn't going to be fun if he was there under duress. What he's finally helped me see is that I was putting him in a box Justin Tucker Jersey , not allowing him time to evaluate the suggestion, which I'd usually had hours to do before suggesting it to him! He also pointed out that if he didn't really want to do something, he never asked me if I was 'ready' to do it or he'd say so right away.
3. Don't Wait to Talk About It.
The longer you put off talking about stress in a relationship, the more stressful the relationship becomes. The more you think about the small slight or hurt, you more you remember - or invent - big ones. And then, when that molehill becomes an erupting mountain Cheap Ravens Hats , the other person has no idea where it's coming from! As soon as you realize something is 'off', talk about it.
4. Put Yourself in Their Shoes.
Imagine how you would feel and react to the situation. This isn't always easy to do, but it puts you in a place where conversation becomes possible.
5. Start Conversations with 'I'.
Tell the other person 'When you do x, I feel..' Let them know why something affects you. Also, starting with a 'You' statement generally feels like (and often is) an attack. Those conversations usually escalate before they an get better.
6. When someone asks what's wrong, don't say 'Nothing'.
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